Married for three years but so far no ?

I would not wait to seek a therapist. ual problems can be deep-seated, last a very long time & are almost impossible to unravel on our own. You really need a patient & kind therapist who can explain things since you got no education & help you and your husband deal with the fears and issues that have arisen from this situation. Waiting & trying longer to no success is just going to compound your problems, expecially since you are both under pressure from in-laws who don't seem to understand that they have helped (and are, at this moment helping) to contribute to your problems.. Good luck, I feel for you...